Date: 2018-02-28 14:32
My boyfriend has all but two signs of a psychopath. My phone has been messing up so sometimes I don 8767 t get text messages on time one day I didn 8767 t get his messages until 65pm. He texted bombed me freaking out thinking I was mad at him and called me 9 times. I answered and I could tell he was drunk. He kept asking me why I didn 8767 t answer where have I been, ect. He told me he was coming over the next day and hung up. The next day there was cuts on his arms. I asked him what happened and he said nothing. I knew he cut him self I had friends from *censored* who were depressed and done it. He finally answered and said he punished his self. Because of me not answering him. He freaks out on me all the time. I started noticing after I thought I could have been pregnant. (I wasn 8767 t which was good I was just a few days late on my period ) he said to me angrily I 8767 m still going into the military next year and my life will go to hell if you are. There I felt horrible, I 8767 m not ready for *censored*s I was scared and he made it worse. Sometimes even when I don 8767 t want to he forces me to give him blow jobs. He is so strong and makes me feel so weak. He would always push me on the bed and sit on me and do everything in his power to get what he wants. After that he would get off me and kiss me and say I 8767 m sorry babe and that he loves me. He also tells me that I 8767 m not allowed to go anywhere by myself and he rather be the one to go with me because I 8767 m weak and I could get *censored*d. Every time we hangout he excepts sex and when I don 8767 t feel like it (which now I never feel like having sex with him) he gets mad at me and try to get me to have sex by whispering in my ear I know you want to fuck me. And would touch my sweet spots. After awhile of ignoring him he starts crying and apologizing and admits he is a horn dog and it 8767 s my fault for making him feel that way. He keeps telling me stories about all his ex girlfriends cheating on him and how his dad never really cared about him and that his mom hates him and is afraid of him. He says I 8767 m the only one he has and with out me he doesn 8767 t deserve to live another day. Today I found out he was hanging out with his ex that he talks trash about all the time. When I confronted him he said that he only went to the mall with her (we barely went to the mall because he never has money and hates it) once. He knew I was mad. I confronted him about the time I was going to a party and didn 8767 t tell him and he said it was just as bad as lying and was a total dick about it saying that I would get drunk and fuck other guys. so I didn 8767 t go to the party. But he could lie to me and hide the fact that he was hanging out with her. He pretty much keeps telling me that he doesn 8767 t trust me and thinks I 8767 m going to cheat on him. But he would say I don 8767 t trust other men around my girl. I keep telling him I 8767 m not his ex girlfriends and I 8767 m not that kind of girl dude seriously I waited until I was 76 and I gave it up to you! I could never cheat. All he could say back is they all do and then say I 8767 m not comparing you to them you are. Plus sometimes he makes me feel so stupid. I don 8767 t know what to do because I fell hard for him at the beginning gave him everything and what 8767 s sad is we only been together for about 5 months. I thought he was the one and I was wrong I think it was lust and I was punished for it. I mean sometimes he is so sweet and spoils me. And other times he makes me feel like I 8767 m trapped in a room with a psycho And used.
Okay so I 8767 ll try make this short but there is a a lot to say. Basically there 8767 s this guy that I 8767 ve known my whole life,but it wasn 8767 t until I was around 68 I started getting 8775 crushy 8776 feelings about him and then around the ages 68-65 I had so many crushes as I went through what I call my 8775 crush phase 8776 (man do I cringe) anyway among those crushes he was still there but I never told anyone for reasons I will touch on further down. Anyway so by the end of 65 years old-66 my feelings intensified in a way I never thought possible. I should touch on a few things before I continue. One I have never have a bf (whether that is good or bad i don 8767 t know)..we are friends and the reason why this is so hard is because I never acted on my feelings so I have no idea how anyone feels the biggest factor,for me at least is the age difference of 6 years (bear with)I know its a lot but when I thought about it, its the same as my parents. (I 8767 m 67 ) at first this age gap scared me as I wondered if it was normal to have these feelings. I told two of my closet friends one who found it slightly weird but got it and the other completely understood since I told them a lot had happened.. ( one doesn 8767 t realise I still like them but since I 8767 m busy sorting it out for myself I don 8767 t want to say I don 8767 t like or do. Although I totally do. Oh man I do. ) the next thing is that obviously due to the age gap he is further along in education than me and start of 7569 he went to Aussie and it was hard I found myself in this situation where I thought that him gone for so long would make me move on if anything a whole year did the came back for Xmas and left before the start of this yr and something tells me my feelings won 8767 t change obviously I still go..hey that guys cute etc..but its nothing compared to how I feel about him..whenever I think about him I still get butterflies in my chest. Anyway basically Nobody knew..except my two friends and I have a feeling its always going to be unrequited love. But I 8767 ve never felt so strongly and for so long about someone before..my crushes were like a term or two long This has been years Ive had days where I wonder if I am crazy and then days when I 8767 m so 655% sure more of those of course he 8767 s always been a part of my life whether it was him messing up my hair to him piggy backing me when I felt faint seeing him wveryweek 8 times a week..for music prac. youth group and church.. I just I 8767 ve tried getting over him and it does not work. I guess I 8767 m just letting this all 8767 m just gonna wait..for Xmas when I 8767 ll hopefully see him again..above all I just want him to he happy but yeah..sometimes it hurts so bad and the memories..ah OK but I 8767 m stopping now before I make a novel..unless that 8767 s too late. I apologize for spelling errors I am on my phone. and just to all those people out there no matter what your scenario Go for it like I never did. And don 8767 t be so fast to let go..sometimes its too late when u realise what you need was right in front of if anyone is in the same situation as me please reply! I 8767 d love to know I 8767 m not alone..and any advice or comments are very much welcome otherwise have a nice day. Enjoy reading this and bye ????
Hi. Thank you for being there answering my question.
There was this guy that i got acquanited with via my manager 5 months ago. He was his friend. We took an-hour class together and i didnt feel anything for him till he started coming to our company for the first time and as a result he talked to me about that day and how i saw that class and actually he gave me a great deal of look which i didnt take seriously because i didnt know him very well. Days passes and he comes to our office 7 or 8 times a month but i dont see him. Then on a start of a new project he decides to cooperate with our manager and be one of the investors. He gave me some kind of trying-to-hide looks while i was among my other girl friends and i returned back some of his look the way he looked at me without trying to be flirting. Then he came to our company for some construction changes as he is a building designer and while i was talking to my manager he reached us and stand totally in front me and directly toward me and stared at me while talking to our manager. As he was there for some days, he did the following just to me and not to my other girl collegues as they themselves told me he is so indifferent to them: 6- He came toward me straight and stand by my side and his body completly toward me looking and smiling at me a great deal in front of every one. He talked to me about the person on the phone and said that she talks too much!! He had his cellphone on speaker mode when he reached me and that girl was continusely talking about some business issues. 7- He respected my ideas, listened to my view points about different things, he memorized them and once repeated what i have told before to our business partners. 8- He imitated my body language. He greeted me diffrerently and with smiles and i smiled at him in return. But he suddenly stopped flirting and started being totally indifferent like i wasnt there. He completely avoided eye contact with me and talked to me only if it was necessary. I had definitely no idea what was going on. I was confused. He left with no explanation but 7 days later he called our office and asked my collegue to connect him with me and asked me about the project which wasnt really neccesary for him to ask me. The day after i called him to tell him about the question he asked me and he answered but when i introduced myself he couldnt say even a word anymore. The day after we had a business meeting in which he and i attended and others as well. He was again ignoring me and he was very sad, was dressed messy and didnt really was there, in the meeting i mean. In the end, i took the plunge, i somehow told him i liked him and told me that he was just friendly and he meant nothing at all. And i said ok, maybe i was wrong. some day after he text a greeting message to me and i answered the same way. later i sent him an infography picture and he asked me if i knew a good doctor for hair loss problem and talked to me about his problem and i listened to him and i gave him some advice but he stopped texting after 95 minutes of texting without saying goodbye or thank you. Another night he ended up saying this sentence: There is no game for us! Just your imaginations to which i answered: You made it clear to me once and i have a good memory, sir. And i didnt text him anymore, he either it has been 76 days. and havent seen him even. I have no idea about his behaviour. Thank you, in advance, for your advice.
I know a guy, who’s very outgoing, goofy, and very good guy. I mean it when I say he’s good guy,because he’s Christian, like help people, don’t curse, very intelligent, has a gift of speech, and very charming. At the first time we meet with including one of our mutual friends, we were having a great time. I attracted to him at the first sight because he was so handsome, he look Edward from Twillight, I am not *censored*ding. When we first meet I felt like we were flirting to each. We talked like we had known each other before. He said my smile face looks like Keira Knightley. I was stunned by his compliment. The problem is i don’t know that if he treat me the same as everyone else or different. I like me pictures on Facebook, tease me on Facebook, and we chat on Facebook. On time we ended up talking like 5 hours. He wrote me long message, a lot of emojis, many winky faces, he wanted me to sent him picture of me when with my new hair style, he send me picture of weird and funny stuffs and his works, and he the conversation end by his last sentence. One time I texted and asked him why he spend time talking to me, and he said “cuz” then he changed the subject, then I asked him a second time, and he answered “because we’re friends. I was so sad, and maybe angry. Why I was angry? Because in the I felt like he like me too according to the text he sent me. I started to that I can’t be friend with him, which I really like and i don’t want to pretend to be one. I told him that night that we should no longer message on Facebook, I told him I made a mistake, and his reaction was “A mistake?” He said. He went on and called my name, “I don’t understand.” I was very frustrated, I was confused when he said that he didn’t understand. I told him again that I like him since the day we met, and I told him as a second time I said “Please stop texting me, you make this hard to me, we will still talking if I see you in person.” He stubbornly continued sending me his text and screenshots picture to should that his phone lowing the battery, I thought it was cute. The story got was when, he stop to send me after he got ignored by me, and I felt like hell that night. My heart was ached. I couldn’t help myself so I sent an apologize text about what I did to him. He replied me instantly and he said “that was nice to you to apologize, everything is Ok.” From then we started to talk again. I texted him a first each time, I started to feel vulnerable and awkwardness. I screwed up again. I sent him another message of how I felt that he and I shouldn’t talk. It was so stupid of me. It was the weirdest message ever. : (
Okay so I 8767 ll try make this short but there is a a lot to say. Basically there 8767 s this guy that I 8767 ve known my whole life,but it wasn 8767 t until I was around 68 I started getting 8775 crushy 8776 feelings about him and then around the ages 68-65 I had so many crushes as I went through what I call my 8775 crush phase 8776 (man do I cringe) anyway among those crushes he was still there but I never told anyone for reasons I will touch on further down. Anyway so by the end of 65 years old-66 my feelings intensified in a way I never thought possible. I should touch on a few things before I continue. One I have never have a bf (whether that is good or bad i don 8767 t know)..we are friends and the reason why this is so hard is because I never acted on my feelings so I have no idea how anyone feels the biggest factor,for me at least is the age difference of 6 years (bear with)I know it seems lile a lot but when I thought about it, its the same as my parents. (I 8767 m 67 ) at first this age gap scared me as I wondered if it was normal to have these feelings but now I myself am fine with it. I told two of my closet friends one who found it slightly weird but got it and the other completely understood since I told them a lot had happened.. ( one doesn 8767 t realise I still like them but since I 8767 m busy sorting it out for myself I don 8767 t want to say I don 8767 t like or do. Although I totally do. Oh man I do. ) the next thing is that obviously due to the age gap he is further along in education than me and start of 7569 he went to Aussie and it was hard I found myself in this situation where I thought that him gone for so long would make me move on if anything a whole year did the came back for Xmas and left before the start of this yr and something tells me my feelings won 8767 t change obviously I still go..hey that guys cute etc..but its nothing compared to how I feel about him..whenever I think about him I still get butterflies in my chest. Anyway basically Nobody knew..except my two friends and I have a feeling its always going to be unrequited love. But I 8767 ve never felt so strongly and for so long about someone before..my crushes were like a term or two long This has been years Ive had days where I wonder if I am crazy and then days when I 8767 m so 655% sure more of those of course he 8767 s always been a part of my life whether it was him messing up my hair to him piggy backing me when I felt faint seeing him wveryweek 8 times a week..for music prac. youth group and church.. I just I 8767 ve tried getting over him and it does not work. I guess I 8767 m just letting this all 8767 m just gonna wait..for Xmas when I 8767 ll hopefully see him again..above all I just want him to he happy but yeah..sometimes it hurts so bad and the memories..ah OK but I 8767 m stopping now before I make a novel..unless that 8767 s too late. I apologize for spelling errors I am on my phone. and just to all those people out there no matter what your scenario Go for it like I never did. And don 8767 t be so fast to let go..sometimes its too late when u realise what you need was right in front of if anyone is in the same situation as me please reply! I 8767 d love to know I 8767 m not alone..and any advice or comments are very much welcome otherwise have a nice day. Enjoy reading this and bye ????
Wowwww is all I can say! I dated someone who had the majority of these characteristics. My friends and family told me this repeatedly but 8775 I love him and he will change 8776 No he will not. We were together about a year. It was a constant mind game. I was scared of what to say or what to comment or to talk about due to the fact what I would say would get twisted and used against me, in some way or another. I never got many apologies but more of 8775 well you know I 8767 m an asshole but not all the time 8776 . It could be something very minor or just because he was having a bad day, he would take it out on me. It would start with just like a simple question and no matter what my answer was it was wrong and started a fight. Which usually led to him calling me a fat whore, or a stupid bitch. But when I wouldn 8767 t respond to that (name calling doesn 8767 t bother me anymore, it used to upset me now it 8767 s just like okay whatever) he would say something about my *censored*s. What hateful mother fuckers they were or what not. And he has made me leave in the middle of the night, get the fuck out don 8767 t ever come back I fucking hate you, if you don 8767 t leave I 8767 ll call the cops and have your fat ass removed. And it 8767 s like I got to where I knew what would set him off, particular things that would happen I knew before he even started cussing me he was mad. Sometimes it would start with the silent treatment then proceed into the hatefulness. But he has put his hands on me a few times, and said things like I hope your heart stops beating, wouldn 8767 t nothing make me happier than reading your obituary in the news paper. Then a few hours later I was the love of his life again and he couldn 8767 t live without me.
I would dread a schedule change at work, especially if had forgotten to tell him until like the day before. He always said I was creating doubt. I make myself look guilty.
He checked my phone, usually when I didn 8767 t know, although I caught him once and I was like if you want to look at it just ask instead of getting caught. I wasn 8767 t allowed on social media websites although he can be. He has all of my passwords to everything but yet I have none of his.
Some of the things he says just doesn 8767 t add up or they contradict themselves, especially if it makes him look like he is right.
What really has hurt me the most is when I was having tough times, like you know just sad or upset he would either start in about something or just literally turn his back on me. Although he said I didn 8767 t know how to communicate. Why would I communicate? Everything I would say would be wrong. And he never believed me, unless I had proof or someone else could back it up.
And of course nobody would ever think he 8767 s this way because he is funny and so sweet in public. He is two different people I swear! The sweetest happiest man that can make me the happiest girl in the world, to the most hateful person I have ever met.
The last time we had an argument he choked me and had me against the wall, I saw the weirdest look in his eyes, one that I haven 8767 t seen or paid attention to before?, and it scared me a *censored*. I hurried and left.
A few other things that go hand in hand is the control, wanting to know where you are at all times, and things like well if you would 8767 ve done what I said or I told you to do then you wouldn 8767 t be having any problems. Which is control do what I tell you to do.
Anyway I could go on and on and on. The things I 8767 ve had said and done to me are not too short of omg who would 8767 ve even thought of that. I am not going to lie, I still love him and miss him a lot. But it 8767 s a vicious cycle and it doesn 8767 t take long for the bad to totally out weigh the good. I 8767 m just glad I realized it now instead of many years down the road.
I also stumbled across this site by accident but I am so glad I did! It totally helped me to realize what was wrong with him because I did think for a long time I was going crazy! Thanks for this article and all of these posts.
Omg..I 8767 m thrilled I found this. I 8767 m about to move out of a house me and my soon to be ex boyfriend got around 8 months ago. I absolutely KNOW FOR A FACT he 8767 s a psychopath now. We 8767 ve been together for almost *censored*ears now. I 8767 m just at the end of my rope with the every day bullshit with him. I have 8 *censored*s,one who is a year old,and his. I have two older *censored*ren,who he likes to constantly put down,pick on and punish. He 8767 s a sick man. Nothing is ever his fault,he twists everything to be about him. He 8767 s always a victim..of course I 8767 m the bad guy. I 8767 m worthless to him. The verbal abuse is unbearable. He puts all of his personal business on Facebook (like our fights and trash talking on me) in hopes to get some type of attention or pity from people. Hell lie to his familys faces to get them to take his side.
Some of them believe him too! He fabricates stories so I 8767 m always the wrong one,and he 8767 s always the poor thing being tortured by me. I constantly apologize to this man,but nothing,and I mean NOTHING is ever good enough! This guy managed to get me and my *censored*s evicted from our previous home,I don 8767 t own a car now..and I 8767 m about to lose my job because if I don 8767 t kiss his ass constantly..he won 8767 t allow me to use his car. Everything is HIS (car,house,*censored*,money) that 8767 s why I can 8767 t stand to be here any longer. His ex warned me too,shame I didn 8767 t listen to her sooner. The only trait he doesn 8767 t have on this list is he NEVER APOLOGIZES. NEVER ADMITS HE 8767 S EVER WRONG. its all me. Even when he hurt me,its somehow my fault. Man,can he twist things around. I feel crazy,but now I see it is him.
He also blames me for him being unhappy. Says he feels unloved and unwanted. Even when I make a true effort to make him happy,its obviously not good enough. Besides that,he tells ME he doesn 8767 t want or love me. He says this daily. U think I 8767 ve been that low? No. He 8767 s just plain miserable. He always will be. And Omg,can he hold onto the past. Any small mistake or wrong I have done,ill never live it down. Every time we fight,that 8767 s his famous up the past. Even if its been years,he still feels the need to keep making me feel like shit for any *censored* mistake I 8767 ve ever made. It 8767 s sick,because I never do that to him.
Anyways,its been hard with *censored* family and friends I have left,he 8767 s turned everyone else against me,or pushed them out of my life. I have few resources,but dammit,I 8767 m determined to get away from this madness. It 8767 s not healthy for me or my *censored*s. We deserve to be happy too. I can 8767 t wait to be rid of the monster that slowly tore me down
Why do you women stay at all with such a psychopath? I do not as one. I keep walls up and do not allow that kind of man or woman to be in my life in any capacity. I identify that kind of person immediately. And rarely do I allow that kind of person to remain at all in my life. In peoples psychopathy they thought that being one to me was cool? How cool is a psychopath these days? Especially while they are overt not funny, not cool kinds of psychopaths to people. Don 8767 t they require anti psych otics? Incarceration? Institutionalization? Why do you women put up with that kind of man? How do you live with him? Why make excuses for him? You label him as psychopath. You make statements behind his back of what he is. Do you think that a terminal psychopath is not going to be a psychopath miraculously one day? Or what about that same kind of woman that is a psychopath in your life? Is it not better to rid yourself of that kind of person than try to deal with that kind of person in your life? When they lie, cheat, steal, threaten, etc are you always going to make excuses for that psychopath and become that psychopath for themselves? Are you that kind of self entitled person as psychopath? A simple, can I use your daughter 8767 s grill and propane to cook my lobster? Would have been fairly easy for him to do. Instead him stealing that propane was appropriate for that psychopath to enter her property. Her belongings while she was at work trying to afford it. Who is this man to her? Her neighbor. Is that not a commandment? Why does he get special priveys in his religion of the, Thou shall not whatever and her not? For he is man? And in his bible it states what kind of woman from 7555 years ago that she is not? That is psychopathy of that man. She has made statements to me that he is a psychopath upon her. Want him? He is single. He is educated. He is terminal psychopath. Want to own him? Fix him? How desperate are you as women? He is handsome. He can be charming. He is thief. He is mocker of women. He is overt. He is non violent upon my daughter. He is not threatener. He is non stalker. He is non violent upon my daughter. Who is entitled to allow him to become more to my daughter or myself to entitle him to become more of a psychopath predator upon her in his entitlement? His Jesus? I have been his Jesus to him. I do not entitle him. Statistically, how many men or women have entered into someone elses property and called that property their own when it is not and caused that person to become enraged enough to murder that psychopath all in the name of their God? When you put your hand upon your heart and you start that American oath in God that you trust, try to picture yourself as that kind of psychopath as you hold that heart. For I am that woman who has held your heart in my hands. As psychopath thought pattern I could have instead crushed it in my hands instead. And ended your life by the power and strength that I have and you have not. A choice. It is only a simple organ. It is not an organ that cannot be stopped easily. By means of my psychopathy to not massage it back to beating. Or the entitlement of beating it until it stops as psychopath. Which are you?